New Ways for Families® helps divorcing and separating families as they transition into a new way of life.

Developed by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., co-founder of the High Conflict Institute, it is designed to help parents strengthen conflict-resolution and co-parenting skills before BIG DECISIONS are made in mediation, collaborative divorce, between the parents, or in court.

It can be taken in person or online before, during or after the divorce or separation.

It is designed to save courts time, to save parents money, and to protect children as their families re-organize in new ways.


parents' emotions are calmed and they learn new skills

before big decisions

are made

 

Then........they are better able to make their own parenting decisions out-of court.


the numbers speak

New Ways for Families Case Study

79% of cases in a study of New Ways for Families reached agreement without going to court

44% of these parents reached agreement on their own during or after attending New Ways for Families

35% reached agreement with help from mediators, collaborative divorce teams or through judicial dispute resolution


"for every dollar invested, the program created an average of $7.40 in social value"

5 WAYS TO USE IT

1     
Counseling
2     
Collaborative Divorce
3     
Decision Skills Class
4     
Pre-Mediation Coaching
5     
New Ways Online


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4
BIG
SKILLS

1  
FLEXIBLE THINKING

Acknowledging that there is more than one solution to most problems

2
MANAGED EMOTIONS

Controlling one’s own anger, sadness, fear, and anxiety so as to not over-react

3
MODERATE BEHAVIORS

Avoiding extreme actions and language

4
CHECKING YOURSELF

Reminding yourself to use these skills at times of stress


Goals

To immunize families against becoming high conflict families in the separation and after the divorce, by teaching parents to avoid common characteristics of high conflict families and to learn or strengthen skills for resiliency.

To help parents teach their children skills for resilience in this time of huge and rapid change in the foundation of their family life. 

To strengthen both parents’ abilities to make parenting decisions, while relying less on experts and the courts to make their decisions for them.

To assist professionals and the courts in assessing each parent’s potential to learn new, positive ways of problem-solving and organizing their family after a separation or divorce. By having both parents participate in the program, it helps professionals and the courts avoid creating an “all-bad parent” and an “all-good parent,” which often escalates the family into high conflict behavior. The focus is always on strengthening skills for future co-parenting.

To give parents a chance to change in court cases of abuse or alienation, before making long-term court orders which may limit their contact with children or require additional treatment (batterers treatment, drug treatment, further counseling, etc.). New Ways still allows for temporary orders when necessary for the health and safety of the children.