New Ways For Families® - Parent Information
“At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents”
~ Jane D. Hull, Former Governor of Arizona
New Ways for Families® focuses on helping people learn "new ways" of thinking, feeling and behaving, rather than focusing on the past or blaming each other. New Ways is for parents re-organizing their families after or during a separation or divorce. This program can be used at any time by any family, from the beginning of the separation process or even after the divorce.
The overall goal is to help both parents develop new ways of making decisions, communicating, and planning for children in a separation or divorce. This program may be used if you jointly agree to use this approach or if a court orders you; if you have direct contact with each other or no direct contact; and no matter the age of your child/ren.
One or more of the following New Ways programs may be available in your area. Which program you complete will depend on your specific circumstances and the city in which you are located.
If you have been court-ordered to participate in counseling OR if you are voluntarily seeking counseling to help you create a smoother transition for you and your children
If you have a court order to attend counseling, or if your court order specifically orders you into the New Ways for Families counseling program, you will be using the Court-Based Counseling model. You may also use this model if you would like to voluntarily participate in the New Ways counseling sessions for your own benefit. Your lawyer or mediator may also encourage you to complete the counseling while you are working with them to resolve your case.
First, visit our Find A New Ways Professional page to find a local counseling agency or individual therapist who offers the program in your area. You can choose any professional to work with, taking into consideration location, fees and whether the counselor accepts insurance - choose the one who works best for you. Please call the individual counselors or agency to find out more information about their services.
The court may also provide you with a list of providers in your area. If your community is not listed, contact us to discuss your options.
If you and your co-parent have agreed to use Collaborative Divorce
If you are working with a Collaborative Divorce team, you will be using the Collaborative Divorce model. The professionals working with you will inform you as how to move forward.
Decision Skills Class
If you are looking for a "co-parenting class" or "high conflict class"
If you have been ordered by a judge or another professional you are working with suggested you attend a parenting class or high conflict parenting class. Please visit our Find A New Ways Professional page for information on local organizations that offer this class in your city. Under the "services" column it is noted whether they offer this 3-hour class.
If you have been referred by a professional or are voluntarily participating in coaching to help prepare you for a more successful mediation session
If you are engaging in Divorce Mediation services (either with your lawyers, a court mediator, or a private mediator) a mediation professional might ask you to complete 1-2 sessions of New Ways coaching to better prepare you for the mediation meeting. Your lawyer or mediator will tell you how to start the coaching services.
New Ways Online
If you are looking for an ONLINE co-parenting program, or if you have been court ordered or recommended to find an ONLINE program.
Please double check with the court that an online course will satisfy your court order. Generally, the online course does not satisfy a court order in jurisdictions where one of the in-person programs is available. View the Find A New Ways Professional page for current in-person program locations.
You may be encouraged by a professional you are working with to enroll in the online course, or may voluntarily decide to enroll in the online course before or during your divorce. Each parent can register for the program individually and you can work at your own pace. It’s important that both parents complete the online course individually, so you can both move forward with co-parenting using the same skills.
The online content is interactive and includes practice exercises, journal entries, videos, examples and commentary. The program is presented in a positive, “no blame, no shame” context and focuses on skills for successful future co-parenting.
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Each family's situation is different. Please contact us to discuss the details of our program, including which model is most appropriate for your situation. Your lawyer or mediator is also welcome to contact us for more specific information.