New Ways For Families® - Parent Information
New Ways for Families® focuses on helping people learn "new ways" of thinking, feeling and behaving, rather than focusing on the past or blaming each other. New Ways is a short-term, 4-step structured method for parents re-organizing their families after or during a separation or divorce. This method can be used at any time by any family, from the beginning of the separation process or even after the divorce.
The overall goal is to help both parents develop new ways of making decisions, communicating, and planning for children in a separation or divorce. This method may be used if you jointly agree to use this approach or if a court orders you; if you have direct contact with each other or no direct contact; and no matter the age of your child/ren.
One or more of the following New Ways models may be available in your area. Which program you complete will depend on your specific circumstances and the city in which you are located.
If you have a court order to attend counseling, or if your court order specifically orders you into the New Ways for Families counseling program, you will be using the Court-Based Counseling model. You may also use this model if you would like to voluntarily participate in the New Ways counseling sessions for your own benefit. Your lawyer or mediator may also encourage you to complete the counseling while you are working with them to resolve your case.
Visit our Find A New Ways Professional page to find a local counseling agency or individual therapist who offers the program. You are welcome to choose any professional to work with, taking into consideration location, fees and whether the counselor accepts insurance. Please call the individual counselors or agency for this information.
The court may also provide you with a list of providers in your area. If your community is not listed, contact us to discuss your options.
If you are working with a Collaborative Divorce team, you will be using the Collaborative Divorce model. The professionals working with you will inform you as how to move forward.
Decision Skills Class
If you have been ordered or encouraged to attend a parenting class or high conflict parenting class and need information on locations, please visit our Find A New Ways Professional page for information on local organizations offer this class in your city. Under the "services" column is noted which program models are offered.
If you are participating in mediation (either with your lawyers, a court mediator, or a private mediator) and have been encouraged to complete 1-2 sessions with your lawyer or mediator prior to mediation, you will be using the Pre-Mediation Coaching model. Your lawyer or mediator will inform you as how to move forward.
You may also work through the Pre-Mediation Coaching Workbook on your own, to prepare for an upcoming mediation session.
New Ways Online - Register Here
You may be court-ordered to complete New Ways online. Please double check with the court that an online course will satisfy your court order. Generally, the online course does not satisfy a court order in jurisdictions where one of the in-person models is available.View the Find A New Ways Professional page for current in-person program locations.
You may be encouraged by a professional you are working with to enroll in the course, or may voluntarily decide to enroll in the course before, during or after your divorce. Each parent can register for the program individually and you can work at your own pace. It’s important that both parents complete the course individually, so you can both move forward with co-parenting using the same skills.
The online content is interactive and includes practice exercises, journal entries, videos, examples and commentary. The program is presented in a positive, “no blame, no shame” context and focuses on skills for successful co-parenting.
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Each family's situation is different. Please contact us to discuss the details of our program, including which model is most appropriate for your situation. Your lawyer or mediator is also welcome to contact us for more specific information.